tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post4189655048501010550..comments2023-04-26T23:35:38.910+10:00Comments on Life on Planet Baby: My life with 3 children under 5 and post-natal depressionJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-68099677640216833082011-11-30T06:44:39.341+11:002011-11-30T06:44:39.341+11:00Jane, thank you so much for linking to this on SIT...Jane, thank you so much for linking to this on SITS. I know how tough it is to share this, but you're so not alone. I had a very similar experience for a long time (and I only have one - it must be tough with more!). My husband did a lot of the care (well, all of it for a while, actually) and really backed me up. It means so much to have that support, and I'm so glad you had (have?) it too.Robin | Farewell, Strangerhttp://farewellstranger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-36178149370343859472011-09-15T00:38:57.203+10:002011-09-15T00:38:57.203+10:00Jane, you may not feel brave hun, but what you hav...Jane, you may not feel brave hun, but what you have done in putting a face on the isolating sickness that is PND is so, so brave. I know from experience how difficult it is to admit it to yourself when you are such an able career woman (as you are!) let alone anyone else! I also had this experience as I wrote on the blog, and although that was 16 years ago now (with my second baby) I have remained on medication and have worked out a regime that suits me and my family. At times things are not easy, but at least I know that they are survivable and that I will be able to see the sunshine again. Big hugs to you and to your loving man, you've done so well to get this far. Vxxvegemitevixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08499944412217904302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-78462598612194022492011-03-26T12:47:36.742+11:002011-03-26T12:47:36.742+11:00Ah, Luisa - I missed this. We must catch up and ta...Ah, Luisa - I missed this. We must catch up and talk about this one day.<br /><br />And Alison, thanks so much for your kind comments - I'm delighted you've introduced yourself. Thanks for the encouragement - we mums need to stick together! You're right about the attitude. <br /><br />I'm so pleased you've become a Planetarian - I'm now following you, too. J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-12157169270796792052011-03-25T22:42:28.810+11:002011-03-25T22:42:28.810+11:00Hi Jane, I pop into Planet Baby every now and then...Hi Jane, I pop into Planet Baby every now and then for a little wander. We seem to comment on a lot of the same blogs, so when I see you've commented I often stop by to see what you've been up to. But I'm not sure I've ever actually commented and said hi. Forgive me for that. Now that I've come across this post, I wanted to write my hellos and say I hear you too. It is a long hard road. You WILL get there though. Big hugs to you for your courage to write about PND, thank you for sharing your story. I have my own black dog too and my blog is one of the ways I stay focussed on the positive, as I'm sure your blog is for you. And there are so many positives in our lives to focus on, aren't there. Hugs, Alison xxalisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18190360458114389641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-23669334540715204262011-02-06T14:05:04.097+11:002011-02-06T14:05:04.097+11:00I hear you sweet lady, i hear you :)I hear you sweet lady, i hear you :)Luisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08593040435671084991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-42743699304089290652011-02-01T09:29:10.486+11:002011-02-01T09:29:10.486+11:00Hi Cathy Thanks for commenting and hopping aboard....Hi Cathy Thanks for commenting and hopping aboard. I'm so pleased you worked your way through it and had such great support. It makes the world of difference. Yes, I think part of my problem was that by returning to Hobart, I left my mothers' group behind in Sydney. J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-34092284820115087452011-02-01T06:05:18.813+11:002011-02-01T06:05:18.813+11:00After reading this I am sure that I suffered from ...After reading this I am sure that I suffered from a mild version of this when my kiddos were 18 months and 32 months old. I was worn out and exhausted. I made it thru by changing my lifestyle a bit. I started yoga and my husband was so supportive & made sure I got to my class every week. I encourage women to find 1 thing to do outside the home while their children are little. The very good news is that it does get a lot easier as your children get older. It is very important to have help in raising little ones. I do think that would have made a big difference for me. I did join a mothers group and that helped as well! hugs to you Jane for covering this important facet of motherhood! cathyCathy M~(checkitoff)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03470783605176479831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-37742035335218237662010-11-29T18:04:08.354+11:002010-11-29T18:04:08.354+11:00Why, Helen, it's so lovely to see you here. Th...Why, Helen, it's so lovely to see you here. Thanks - I'm so pleased it's provided some solace. I'm really touched you even remember me - you had so much going on at the time. I was just astounded at how well you two were keeping it together in the face of some difficult circumstances. <br /><br />What a lovely thing to say - thankyou. And you're an amazing trooper with your four sweet littlies and lovely husband. J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-83946521776977756702010-11-28T19:10:29.091+11:002010-11-28T19:10:29.091+11:00Thanks for sharing Jane, to see it written down is...Thanks for sharing Jane, to see it written down is quite therapeutic for me. To see that you are still going through it, even though it is sad to read, has given me the strength to get through my own demons.<br />You were a massive support to me when we met last year and I have thought about you guys quite a bit. <br />Very happy to hear that medication has been sorted and although things are not how you would ideally like them, that you are all managing to get through life.<br />You are a very, brave strong woman who is truly blessed with a beautiful husband and gorgeous children.<br />Love Helen xxHelenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15692129663343524545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-84287513112110860762010-11-23T19:21:44.744+11:002010-11-23T19:21:44.744+11:00Why, thanks for your kindness, ladies. Not to ment...Why, thanks for your kindness, ladies. Not to mention your empathy for those who've 'been there' and/or are 'still there'. And to those fellow sufferers, thanks for sharing and caring enough to comment.<br /><br />And Millie, thank goodness we live in more enlightened times now. What terrible fallout for your MIL and MOTH.<br /><br />Megs, I've sent you a message but thanks so much for your openness. I hope you have good support as well. And I tend to agree with you - I do feel it's important for me to get the fact 'out there' because as much as I'd like, the PND doesn't seem to be going quietly - it really affects everything I do. Once people realise that, they have some important context into who I am. J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-22953575361648303582010-11-22T22:30:06.573+11:002010-11-22T22:30:06.573+11:00Jane this was a wonderful post. I don't know ...Jane this was a wonderful post. I don't know that the term "brave" is the right word. I would say it's "necessary" to come out and reveal your true self like that. I have lived with Cyclothymia for a lot of years now and I felt I needed to be an open book about it in order to get through it. I think we all need to have a little more faith in people - you'd be surprised at the amount of support you receive. You sound like an awesome person Jane and I'm glad you and your husband have worked out what you need to do to ride it through. A lot of people can get lost in it and aren't aware that there are is so much support out there. I look forward to more posts! <br />Megs :) xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-46822048128202725262010-11-19T22:53:47.491+11:002010-11-19T22:53:47.491+11:00It is so very very hard being a Mum particularly w...It is so very very hard being a Mum particularly when they are close together in age and particularly when they are small. You really sound like such a wonderful caring mother and your honesty is refreshing. A wonderful post Jane. Thank you.emma @ frog, goose and bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05269340897364390032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-58563040049272588922010-11-19T21:29:04.483+11:002010-11-19T21:29:04.483+11:00good on you Jane! you are brave and strong and a g...good on you Jane! you are brave and strong and a good mum for being so open. Raising children is hard work and having them all close together is really tough, it has its rewards and benefits but man it's hard work so you're doing a great job!!!! <br /><br />corrie:)Corriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15742167397662346566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-29421535238739027742010-11-19T12:58:36.941+11:002010-11-19T12:58:36.941+11:00MOTH's mother suffered from this insidious dis...MOTH's mother suffered from this insidious disease in the early 1950's, but it went undiagnosed. It culminated with a pyschotic episode 4 weeks after the birth of her 3rd child. She spent 6 mths. in a pysch. hospital, received 26 doses of ECT & then spent a lifetime trying to rebuild her life. His entire family was affected & still is. Your post is brave & in many ways triumphant Jane. You will not let this issue define you, that's very clear.<br />Millie ^_^Milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15408461724832141163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-63614016106798032952010-11-19T09:41:44.593+11:002010-11-19T09:41:44.593+11:00What a beautiful raw and honest post. I had post-n...What a beautiful raw and honest post. I had post-natal depression after the birth of my first child. I didn't know what was wrong with me at the time and suffered for 6 months before I got help.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00213673001470305990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-21165029424005396122010-11-19T07:50:02.989+11:002010-11-19T07:50:02.989+11:00Your honesty is clear in everything you write, Jan...Your honesty is clear in everything you write, Jane. I am positive that this post is going to help someone very much. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-34182802460957152752010-11-19T04:40:03.124+11:002010-11-19T04:40:03.124+11:00Jane, what a beautiful post. Beautiful in the sen...Jane, what a beautiful post. Beautiful in the sense that it is honest and brave and will doubtless comfort other women experiencing the same thing and inspire them to get help. I think PND is extra-difficult because it can be such a challenge to care for yourself adequately when you are also caring for young children. I'm glad your husband is such a strong support.<br /><br />I'm experiencing some depression now as well as a result of some big and unexpected events in my life (domestic violence, divorce, etc) and have found writing about my experience to be very cathartic. There are a lot of wonderfully supportive people in blogland. Wishing you all the best.Wanderlusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099758957492165428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-19006308675829195832010-11-18T23:03:09.207+11:002010-11-18T23:03:09.207+11:00good on you for sharing Jane. I hope you get some...good on you for sharing Jane. I hope you get some relief sooner than later. I have suffered severe depression for a long long time but seem to be doing ok with the meds nowadays. Sleep deprivation is the enemy thoughKellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12427642925654042681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-31697922763014392572010-11-18T20:20:17.310+11:002010-11-18T20:20:17.310+11:00Oh, my! Your gorgeous words of support are so very...Oh, my! Your gorgeous words of support are so very touching. After a seemingly never-ending day on PB, it's the loveliest feeling to read your comments just now. I've also had a number of private emails sharing your experiences - thanks so much for sharing and confiding.<br /><br />It's funny - I didn't feel brave writing this post. I didn't feel a sense of dread when I hit 'Publish post'. I felt empty. That's what the PND does to me. I was relieved when Mr PB read it and agreed that I hadn't 'over-shared' about my medication and treatment - it's a fine line to share with you all but also protect my privacy. <br /><br />The thing about PND is that it has to be public as there are the very real consequences of children to care for while you're unwell. The other times I had depression pre-PB, we could keep it secret. Not so this time around with the pixies to care for. Now, just a few quick comments.<br /><br />Yes, Felicity, ante-natal depression isn't spoken much about. And neither is postnatal psychosis. There's still a lot of stigma out there.<br /><br />Thanks, Sarah, sweet friend. At least we've met each other out of all this!<br /><br />Oh, Brigitte, I really feel for you. I know what you mean about having those feelings for your newborn sullied by your distress. When I posted about my time in the Mother Baby Unit, a lot of my grief came flooding back. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you with number 3 (congrats!) - the important thing is that you have the insight now and will know how and when to get help if you need it. Best of luck with it, sweet one!<br /><br />An interesting insight, Julia - thanks for adding that.<br /><br />Thanks, Kat - I'm pleased you also found the MBU a great support.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-52069393728608813602010-11-18T14:31:57.548+11:002010-11-18T14:31:57.548+11:00thanks for linking up today and sharing this very ...thanks for linking up today and sharing this very important topic - thanks for your information, your open heart and honesty. It is something close to my heart and was such a struggle for me. It is a difficult time already with children and when you are dealing with those feelings that come from post natal depression it is so much harder. I hope you have been able to help many others today. Thanks Jane xxsevencherubshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03711195223462119984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-4666766018941966092010-11-18T12:29:22.837+11:002010-11-18T12:29:22.837+11:00I truly feel for you. It must be a challenge with ...I truly feel for you. It must be a challenge with three little 'pixies' when you're feeling strong and energetic, let alone with pnd? <br />You and Mr PB sound like a great team and fabulous parents. Don't be too hard on yourself...you seem to be doing a great job. xBethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00071999450731273883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-68826523436370884182010-11-18T06:41:32.630+11:002010-11-18T06:41:32.630+11:00Jane, I think it is fantastic you are sharing abou...Jane, I think it is fantastic you are sharing about your experience.<br />I love that your blog is so open and real.<br />I think you are a very strong and brave woman, who is going to help many other women by sharing.<br />I met some other Mum's in the MBU who had/have pnd and they too are amazing women who inspire and encourage me in my journey as a Mum.<br />I have not had pnd, although have suffered with mild depression a couple of times in my life.<br />Your Husband sounds like a very supportive guy and you sound like a wonderful Mum.<br />I am so pleased to read that you have been taking time out for yourself on the weekend to nurture you. Very important as a busy Mum of three under four.<br />Keep sharing and be kind to yourself. You are doing a great job! :)Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11942300231374421400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-474349612690717942010-11-18T04:50:26.868+11:002010-11-18T04:50:26.868+11:00Good for you for sharing! You have blessed many l...Good for you for sharing! You have blessed many lives with your bravery. As a mother of biological, adopted and foster children I must say that it can also affect women adjusting to a new child in the home even if they did not birth the child. So thankful that you have such a supportive hubby! Julia momlifetoday.comUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14505000078212258550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-3830313302128890632010-11-17T21:34:07.371+11:002010-11-17T21:34:07.371+11:00A wonderfully honest and informative post Jane, th...A wonderfully honest and informative post Jane, thanks for choosing to share about this. Your husband sounds like a truly wonderful man to be able to support you so well through this.<br />I am currently struggling with PND and have been since the birth of number two a year ago. It totally rocked me to my core, such a terribly dark time when it SHOULD have been glowing with newborn wonder. I hate it that PND robbed me of this but I was able to recognise it early on which I am thankful for. Now I'm pregnant with number three (due end of May) which I am extremely happy about but there's the horrible fear of PND returning... <br />I hope the darkness lifts for you soon and the medication helps you feel like your old self. Thanks again for sharing, it's always nice to hear there are others out there who understand! XBrigittehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05754289203371896906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-61891436257591092742010-11-17T21:08:27.253+11:002010-11-17T21:08:27.253+11:00Jane, thank you for letting people know the realit...Jane, thank you for letting people know the reality of the day-to-day with PND. I may have had it briefly after my 2nd child but it was certainly never diagnosed. And I had no idea of the severity of this condition. I feel for you. But the fact that you're aware, are getting help, have an amazingly supportive husband and look to the future all speak volumes of the success you will no doubt have in kicking it. Your honesty and authenticity is truly wonderful. Bless xKerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01762326830724357881noreply@blogger.com