tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post2567635267472689891..comments2023-04-26T23:35:38.910+10:00Comments on Life on Planet Baby: Musings on grief: how I'm faringJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-62200155916969977032011-10-06T22:24:57.748+11:002011-10-06T22:24:57.748+11:00Oh Christine, you darling. Thankyou. I'll be t...Oh Christine, you darling. Thankyou. I'll be thinking of you on the 11th. J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-37920506250410578742011-10-05T23:38:22.995+11:002011-10-05T23:38:22.995+11:00Dear Jane,
It is 11 years on the 11th of this mont...Dear Jane,<br />It is 11 years on the 11th of this month that we remember my dad's departure from this earth, and it is still hard however the rawness is softened somewhat. my only regret is that he never saw me find my husband and be blessed with my miracle Sophie in 2007, although I'm sure he knows about her!!!<br /><br />Take special care of yourself each and every day,<br />Christine xoChristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09042424651245052981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-77362825226403155202011-10-04T10:21:52.018+11:002011-10-04T10:21:52.018+11:00Thanks, Amanda, you darling. I'll try! J xThanks, Amanda, you darling. I'll try! J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-31415537649591711592011-10-03T21:38:27.718+11:002011-10-03T21:38:27.718+11:00Dear Jane, I so admire how poignantly you bare you...Dear Jane, I so admire how poignantly you bare your soul, even though things must feel so raw still. Stay strong and definitely go gently, one hour,day or week at a time. xxAmanda (Small Acorns)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04090007601440404545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-30260848455424270582011-10-02T14:17:12.280+11:002011-10-02T14:17:12.280+11:00Why, thankyou everyone - your kind, thoughtful and...Why, thankyou everyone - your kind, thoughtful and compassionate responses have floored me. Once again. I really appreciate all your suggestions, especially from those who have trodden this path before me. You have huge hearts. J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-59208371165426988802011-09-30T23:09:08.596+10:002011-09-30T23:09:08.596+10:00Dear Jane
I'm really sorry to hear this sad n...Dear Jane <br />I'm really sorry to hear this sad news. <br />Condolences and best wishes,<br />MariekeMariekehttp://life.mariekeabels.nl/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-12500038158486129132011-09-29T08:10:14.976+10:002011-09-29T08:10:14.976+10:00Jane, grief takes forever, my mum died two years a...Jane, grief takes forever, my mum died two years ago and I still struggle. Just take each day as it comes. If you need to cry wherever you are just cry. The pain is extremely intense. Just the other day I was in the local library with my daughter and an older lady dropped her wallet, I bent down to pick it up for her and I just started to cry. It just happens when you least expect it. I feel for you and your family all the very best. Mimi xxxMimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08312744444153944816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-22602788774871415852011-09-29T07:43:35.855+10:002011-09-29T07:43:35.855+10:00Jane, you are doing so well. I think some crafting...Jane, you are doing so well. I think some crafting will really help though. I like to keep my mind busy, not that you're not busy with your kiddies! It would be nice for you though. I suppose the grief eases over time, but of course you'll never forget. But as I said, I think you are coping so so well xSarah Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12869923063594203447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-42076646646653261002011-09-29T05:07:37.451+10:002011-09-29T05:07:37.451+10:00Yes, I am still counting the weeks aswell. Yes, I ...Yes, I am still counting the weeks aswell. Yes, I have the regrets that Dad will never see the boys grow up and that they will not know him as adults. Or the biggest concern is that they will only remember him as being a sick old man and not the wonderful Grandad he was. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing. I have really been just floating along trying to deal with the day to day. I find I have been turning to my knitting and have just started baking again. I love the advice you received about going gently, that is all we can do. That and remembering the wonderful times and sharing them with our young ones. My thoughts are with you and your family. Warmest hugs, DebDebhttp://www.aclotheslineoutheback.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-78441703535679965322011-09-29T00:24:40.410+10:002011-09-29T00:24:40.410+10:00Sweetie, grief is indeed for everyone different......Sweetie, grief is indeed for everyone different... My heart was heavy reading this post, I feel for you and your mama.... Just keep on going as you do now, it seems you are going on the right track, being with your loved ones and knowing with your head to go and put your love into crafting and your new home, just take your time... As you said, you still count the weeks, so take all the time you need... And if you want to write it off your chest, know I will listen, an ocean apart, another timezone, but I will listen...love, Maureen xDaydream Livinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14092794695138108197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-82739057484238062532011-09-28T22:52:15.462+10:002011-09-28T22:52:15.462+10:00Go gently sounds like beautiful advice. Grief is ...Go gently sounds like beautiful advice. Grief is so individual. There is no right or wrong way. 'The unbearable lightness of being' is one of my favourite books also. Haven't thought of it in years. Must return to it.emma @ frog, goose and bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05269340897364390032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-13091877724815156272011-09-28T22:46:51.542+10:002011-09-28T22:46:51.542+10:00Oh Jane, as hard as it is for me to read about you...Oh Jane, as hard as it is for me to read about your pain, I could read your words over and over. You write so beautifully. I think everything you've expressed makes perfect sense. I'll be honest, I dread the day either of my parents are no longer here. I do think of it more often these days, probably due to their age and also having my own family now. I know that no amount of preparing myself will make it easier when the time comes, so instead I just enjoy every single moment we share, take every opportunity to tell them I love them and record as much as I can about them on my blog... because it's the perfect vessel for carrying the memories into the future. Life is so fragile sweet Jane. I think you're remarkable to post so eloquently about something so emotionally challenging. Hugs to you. <br />And I look forward to seeing more of your room of your own soon xoxoAll For Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13151973819133926868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-81060696640879446402011-09-28T22:33:27.084+10:002011-09-28T22:33:27.084+10:00Beautiful Jane. I dont think you would ever feel &...Beautiful Jane. I dont think you would ever feel 'normal' when it comes to that sort of loss, I think that is normal. Half of you is that lovely Man and should that void ever heal over? I hope not. You should always feel a mix bag of emotions when thinking of him. At first it will be sadness, but soon it will be joy to have had him as YOUR Dad, happiness to have told him what you felt, love for everyday he was there doing his thing.....<br />Im thinking of you sweetie and sending a huge hug your way.<br />Ness xx<br />Marley & LockyerNess Lockyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13786847644536923530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-21275665357370780032011-09-28T21:28:29.783+10:002011-09-28T21:28:29.783+10:00hello sweetie - thoughts with you le xoxhello sweetie - thoughts with you le xoxle@thirdhttp://www.thirdontheright.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-3193476485760902082011-09-28T20:59:22.020+10:002011-09-28T20:59:22.020+10:00Sound advice from your doctors, Jane, that grief t...Sound advice from your doctors, Jane, that grief takes time... although just how long I'm not sure. My father died when I was 18 and it took a good three years afterwards to be able to tell new friends without my voice breaking. It's a part of my life but even still, especially now that I have children of my own who are missing a grandfather, the grief creeps in and takes over at unexpected times. I let it. Best to be honest with yourself about these things and just go with it... gxoGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02397398447336655195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-60288411149918416522011-09-28T20:53:49.027+10:002011-09-28T20:53:49.027+10:00Dear Jane,
Thank you for sharing your sorrow with...Dear Jane,<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your sorrow with us. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes knowing that one day I will fully understand your pain. <br /><br />I wish you well, <br />Deborah.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-89379376944182688182011-09-28T20:45:33.895+10:002011-09-28T20:45:33.895+10:00Dear Jane, I so feel with you dealing with the los...Dear Jane, I so feel with you dealing with the loss of your dad. I'm glad you managed to tell him all your feelings and that he understood - I have no idea to deal with the loss of a parent - the fact that you have the strength to share it with us is just amazing. The proverb is beautiful.<br />Love from me in Denmark<br />Axanyaadoreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12113259440919222306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-84642591213767482692011-09-28T20:15:44.828+10:002011-09-28T20:15:44.828+10:00I hear and totally understand all you wrote.
Like...I hear and totally understand all you wrote.<br /><br />Like you were writing from my mind all those years ago...<br /><br />You know what to do to get through this time. Just make sure you do it.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11169573229970426760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-52449083486970171302011-09-28T18:53:26.453+10:002011-09-28T18:53:26.453+10:00Hello Jane, That must be so hard I have no answers...Hello Jane, That must be so hard I have no answers for you...My biggest fear is loosing my parents and not being able to get there on time (all my family of origin lives so far from me)...I lost my dear Grandma this way and it still bring tears to my eyes these days.Try not "overthink" what you can not control maybe and concentrate on the pixies and your hubby and your new home ?I hope you feel better slowly my lovely...xxSandrinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16723183478616735298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-21831230071108669452011-09-28T18:35:35.101+10:002011-09-28T18:35:35.101+10:00There is definitely no statute of limitations for ...There is definitely no statute of limitations for grief, Jane. Your dad seems (I can never use past tense with people, I don't know why) such a gentle soul and so kind. You are so much like him. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-44048707869966489872011-09-28T18:27:18.809+10:002011-09-28T18:27:18.809+10:00My late dad was a gentle man too, and the only way...My late dad was a gentle man too, and the only way I could cope the first year, was to train myself not to think about things at night. And sewing. Sewing has always helped me in times of stress.Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18423723918672036692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-11049596074096086292011-09-28T18:06:26.984+10:002011-09-28T18:06:26.984+10:00So sorry to hear about your loss. I haven't be...So sorry to hear about your loss. I haven't been through losing a parent yet but it's something that I dread so much. May you always remember your day fondly. I love the Hebrew proverb! xxTheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17347500412731766502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-53209111093754983452011-09-28T17:43:33.531+10:002011-09-28T17:43:33.531+10:00It's hard to read this and not well up Jane......It's hard to read this and not well up Jane...it is so beautifully written and expresses the sentiments of how I feel over the loss of all my loved ones in the time we have been living in Australia. I think the hardest thing for me to acccept is the not having a chance to say goodbye. Like you I just took each day one step at a time :)<br /><br />Take care.<br /><br />xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-60645565906968286062011-09-28T16:59:34.708+10:002011-09-28T16:59:34.708+10:00beautifully written and I could have written so mu...beautifully written and I could have written so much of it. I just couldn't write how I was feeling on my blog as I knew my dad and family read my blog and I just couldn't share it all but it still hurts. this friday will be 6 months for my mum and it still hurts, family events and the lead up are hard because you know someone is missing. And those moments when you realise you won't see them again and it really sinks again and then I think it hasn't really sunk in.<br /><br />big hugs, it's such a hard time. My dad summed it best when I said how great it was he had his kayaking and activities and he said I have 2 choices - I could sit home and be miserable all the time or get out there and do something. And that's where having your own little family will keep making it easier and help you.<br /><br />big hugs to you, it's still so early for you and I always think of you and how you're doing. <br />Corrie;)<br />xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxCorriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15742167397662346566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257012568697296973.post-85098042600036493342011-09-28T16:53:42.525+10:002011-09-28T16:53:42.525+10:00Thank you Jane. I hope this was as helpful to you ...Thank you Jane. I hope this was as helpful to you as reading it was to me. I know I'll need to come back to this one day, which will be sooner than later.<br /><br />Carmel xoMakeminemidcenturyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15304535583168822160noreply@blogger.com